Ryan Recommends

We watched this film for the second time last night, and I must say that I absolutely loved it. Written for the screen and directed by P.T. Anderson (Magnolia, Punch Drunk Love), "There Will Be Blood" is a movie that gets even better with age. Some have told me that it moved too slowly for them, but to me the pacing was just right and the acting was completely brilliant. Plus, with the music score being done by Johnny Greenwood of Radiohead, there was always something for my brain to be focused on. If you're going to invest 2.5 hours in a film, I cannot think of many films that have come out in recent years that would be more worth the investment.


Based on the book by Jonathan Safran Foer (Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close), "Everything is Illuminated" has become one of our all-time favorites over the past 2 years. It is beautifully shot, with plenty of dry wit and heartfelt family history to move you through. The music is extremely memorable, and as far as off-beat comedies go this is certainly one of the best out there. I liked it much better than other options such as "Running with Scissors" and "Winter Passing." Being that I am not an Elijah Wood fan, this recommendation should mean even more than if I were suggesting a Phillip Seymour Hoffman film (my favorite actor). See it, and enjoy it. Then go buy some Gogol Bordello records. :)


"The Darjeeling Limited" is the 5th movie from Wes Anderson (Bottle Rocket, Rushmore, Royal Tenenbaums, Life Aquatic), and for those who love his work it definitely did not disappoint. Shot in India, this beautiful story of 3 brothers on a "spiritual voyage" is hilarious, and yet rich with symbolism. I had concerns that Anderson was treading over the same material too often (white boys in the state of arrested development) but this movie still shed fresh light for me and was definitely worth making. I would suggest that you see this movie if you like dark comedy, family dysfunction, or India. ;)



"Lars and the Real Girl" was a little off-putting to me at first. Am I actually going to watch a guy buy a sex doll and then convince himself that she's real? Is that a movie?? But, I must say, I was terribly wrong to doubt this film. Not only were my worst fears not realized, but I was moved by the community aspects within the film. Ryan Gosling does a fine bit of acting, and although it is certainly quirky in nature, this movie is far from being non-accessible. It is not emotionally turbulent, it is not highly disturbing, it is merely a story of figuring out what it means to be human. And it's good.




"Paris, Je Taime" is a very unique film. It is comprised of 18 five minute films, all with different directors and different actors with different stories. One main thing in common: Paris is the backdrop. I loved this film and would certainly argue that it is one of the better ones made in the past 2 years. It is in French with English subtitles as you might expect, and the beauty and humor within this film makes it quite memorable indeed. Far from the norm, and yet not far from home, I would certainly suggest that you check out this movie.




This is not an exhaustive list by any means (honorable mentions would include "The Diving Bell and the Butterfly", "King Corn," "Manderlay" and "The Squid and the Whale"), they are just some films over the past few years that have not seen incredible box office success but yield great rewards for those who invest the time. If you have any recommendations for me (or critiques of the ones I have enjoyed), please share with us by all means.

Super Tasters Taste More

"It's WHAT you like, not what you ARE like, that's important." Rob Gordon, High Fidelity

Sharing your taste with somebody can be a great way of letting them get to know you. Example: If you know that my favorite movie is "Life is Beautiful" and that I have no desire to see the new "Incredible Hulk" movie, you've learned something about who I am. If I told you that I loved ALL movies, what would you learn? Well, either that I am a liar, or that I'm incredibly boring. Either way, it hurts your desire to continue getting to know me.

That point seems pretty obvious to people when we talk about books or films, but I frequently get responses like this in regards to music.

People tell me that they love ALL music. They might go as far as to eliminate a genre or two (mainly country or rap) so that there is SOME dimension to their personality from the statement they've provided. One problem is that it's not true. The other problem with this answer is what it represents. We WANT to be viewed as open-minded, broad thinking people who have expansive tastes and are truly up for anything. You're not. I might go as far as to say that you'll LISTEN to anything. But love? No.

If you love everything than the word no longer has meaning. It does my wife no good if I love her if I also love ALL women and do not differentiate between them. Why do I love my wife? Aren't there qualities I see in her that makes her stand out, making her special to me? Absolutely. I might also love my sister, but it will be quite different from the way I love my wife. After that, I might love my friend, but my love for her would also be very different than the love I have for my wife and for my sister. There are varying degrees, and then at some point I'm going to bump into a woman that I don't particularly like being around. Maybe I don't hate, but I certainly don't love.

This is true of music if you really love any of it. It is good to know your tastes, and to think critically about them. Not so that they remain static and you preserve your favorites forever and never evolve! I believe it's possible for you to LEARN to love a certain piece of music, or a certain style of singing, or a particularly strong power chord. But you should figure out why you love something and don't care for something else, or you'll never learn anything. People want to "find themselves" or discover who they really are. Well, a window into that insight is lying right in front of you with your taste.

It actually can be a bit scary, looking yourself in the mirror and examining what you see. Maybe you like "Dream Theater" more than you think you should. Maybe you didn't like "Citizen Kane" as much as you thought you were supposed to. It can make you feel a little vulnerable putting yourself out there with any sort of opinion. But out there is where it happens, and it's where you belong. Don't hide behind a bland sheet of fake-love. Be real, be honest, and be humble. Your favorite song when you were 3 is probably not your favorite song today, so there's a very real possibility that your tastes may change. But knowing where you are today is still cool, and letting me get to know where you are is a form of intimacy, and without it our friendship is basically limp. So.... quit giving me the weak hand-shake. Just shake it!

Matters of Music

People LOVE music, right? It's rare that I come upon a human being who doesn't claim to have a love for music, it almost feels cold and foreign if they don't make that claim. They also acknowledge that music has impacted their lives in some way, and that they certainly wouldn't want to live without music. And yet, with all of these people telling me how much they care deeply for music, it's even more rare that I find somebody who truly does.

Let me explain.

If you love something, you show a devotion to it. You VALUE it. You would not stand by while it was abused and do nothing. And yet, not only are we not standing up for music, but often we find ourselves contributing to the abuses with our own actions. What is he talking about?? What abuses? I will tell you.

Music has become a form of consumption. Therefore, the qualities that have become the most important to us regarding music are similar to that of any other consumption item in our culture. Convenience is huge. We refuse to go out of our way anymore, as the internet has made music so unbelievably accessible over the past 10 years. We also want it on our terms. Meaning, if I don't want an album but I want just 1 song, I expect to be able to get just that song for about a buck or less. We're actually starting to expect it for less (meaning free) more often than before.

The market WILL meet these demands, music consumers out there. Oh, it already has and it will continue to push towards what we demand, towards what we VALUE. Look familiar? The form itself vs. a CD is not what's important, it's what is written on the walls between the lines.

We will compress the heck out of the quality of your track so that you can fit as many tracks into the space provided as possible. What are we saying as consumers when we buy this? We would rather have the convenience than the quality.

Now, above I am talking about the quality of the recordings diminished when crunched into the typical MP3 format on iTunes. Here is a more frightening reality to me: We are losing out on the quality of the art itself. By only buying individual tracks more and more, artists are not able to afford to put the time and energy into deeper work that requires patience and time to un-lock. It will truly be the age of the "single" and the time of the album will be lost in the sauce. If we all just bought tiny corners of great paintings, then pretty soon large canvas paintings would go away and they would just sell buttons.

Finally, even with large record labels dying and more indie artists out there to support than ever before, we have still found a way to make sure the artists remain screwed by a giant company. The support we could show them through buying their art directly would be immense, but instead we give almost all of it to a huge company that created no music whatsoever. What did they do for us, again? Oh yeah, convenience. I suppose having all the music I own fit into my back pocket is worth the instant slashing of quality, the slow death of great long lasting album-makers, and taking the money out of the hands of those who created this thing we so dearly love. ;)

What am I suggesting? If you love music, VALUE it as such. Do whatever you can to support the artists who create the works that you love. Uphold the quality of the work and don't compromise the integrity of the music for a slightly more convenient way of experiencing it. The new technology isn't evil by any means. But when we sell something that's more important to get it, something is wrong. Remember what you love about music, what your life would be like if it wasn't there for you, and then give it it's due. Or just stop saying that you love music so much, because it simply isn't true. :)

Faith in Chaos

Do you have a desire within you to pursue answers to questions that are bigger than yourself? When you get a little closer to the truth, do you notice anything happening within you? I believe that most human beings long to know answers to questions that are bigger than themselves, and that no human vessel is equipped to carry all the answers. So, is it an "ignorance is bliss" type of existence? Where we let these questions fall away, because in the end we cannot comprehend it all? I think not.

There is something critically important in the journey for discovering truth, and if you ignore the quest, you miss life. This is true no matter where you are along the path. If you're a child, you ask tons of "silly" questions, seeking to know more about a world of which you know nothing. If you have been pursuing truth all your life and are considered "wise" by many, you seek to understand the subtleties of the truth between the lines. Basically, the one thing you never do is remain idle forever. That is not a journey. That is a make-out spot for lonely old perverts who would rather make love to the knowledge they think they have forever than to step outside of the car and look over the cliff. The implication is that if you are not seeking truth of some sort, you are content with the truth you have and see no reason for more.



In the film "Pi" we see a character (Max) driven to madness and immense physical pain by the truth he was encountering. We understood that his afflictions were not solely brought on by the truth itself, but also by his obsession for it. The underlying assumption is that the closer we get to truth (or reality), the more we are captivated by it and burn to live within it. It changes us. However, if truth leads you to pride, or to forsake the life around you, you have missed something within the truth you have sought. The character Saul (Max's mentor) persists that Max needs to take things in perspective. Max believes that Saul has forsaken the journey of understanding, when in fact Saul is fully engrossed in it. He is understanding the beauty of life through animals (his fish). He is understanding the joy and burden of love and friendship by trying to save his friend (Max) from his own destruction, which he knows is just around the corner. Saul is still interested in larger than life questions, but only within the context of love and humanity. It was the pursuit of knowledge alone, without love, that threatened to un-do both characters. The fact that Max puts a drill to his head to escape reality is not a conclusion that truth must be avoided, but that it must be undertood carefully, and with tons of humility.



Acknowledging that we are limited should be the start of humility, not the end of the journey. Beauty, truth, reality, these things bring fruit, love and life into the world. We need to pursue them. If you notice that you have been stagnant, and that maybe you believe you have "truth" pretty figured out (or that you don't care anymore), I urge you to get out of the car. Stop making out with the kernel of life that you have inside of you, and look over the cliff. The world is out there, and we need you.

The Envelope Please....

What is the greatest acting performance you have ever seen? What made it so great? I would be curious to hear from everybody what ranks highly on their lists. Several performances come to my mind, so I have decided to make a top 10 list. If you have 10, you can tell me 10. If you have 3, you can tell me 3. If they're not in order because you have a hard time ranking, just tell me performances that you love. Here is my list, from 10 down to 1

10. Cuba Gooding Jr. - Radio
9. Anthony Hopkins - Silence of the Lambs
8. Robert DeNiro - Awakenings
7. Phillip Seymour Hoffman - Capote
6. Sean Penn - I am Sam
5. Emily Watson - Breaking the Waves
4. Leonardo DiCaprio - What's Eating Gilbert Grape?
3. Ben Kingsley - House of Sand and Fog
2. Ellen Burstyn - Requiem for a Dream
1. Bjork - Dancer in the Dark

If you can pick up a theme, I have the potential to be greatly moved by somebody with a handicap (so does the American public). The only other major connection is that there are 2 of my top 5 performances that take place in a Lars Von Trier film. The highest ranked performance belongs to Bjork in her performance in Dancer in the Dark, which is the film we just recently watched at M.O.M. 2 of my top 3 performances came by supporting actors, isn't that a little weird?

So look at yourselves, what would you put on your list? I want to see some comments here, let's get some thought trains going as to what moves us and why.

Who's his chiropractor?

Last week (yeah, I know, I should have written sooner) we watched one of my favorite movies, El Espinazo del Diablo, a ghost story set in a Spanish orphanage during the Spanish Civil War. For those of you who don't habla Espanol, El Espinazo del Diablo is Spanish for The Devil's Backbone. It was directed by Guillermo del Toro, probably best known in the U.S. for Mimic, Blade II, and Hellboy. He also wrote and directed a film called Cronos, a fascinating reworking of the vampire mythos.

If you haven't seen any of del Toro's films, I would highly recommend all of them, with the unfortunate caveat, however, that they may be classified as horror movies. I say unfortunate because I think the horror genre is one that many people simply dismiss out of hand.

So I'd like to begin discussion with a few questions:

1. If you avoid horror, why?

2. If you enjoy horror, why?

3. What horror movies/stories do you enjoy, and have you watched any that you wish you hadn't?

Del Toror's next film, Pan's Labyrinth, comes out in December. I've only seen the trailer, but I think it's my favorite movie ever.

Door County Trip

Mandy and I were in Door County WI for the last 5 days, staying at a place called the Birchwood Lodge. We had a fantastic trip and I am here to recount what I can so that you all can vicariously have a vacation as well. enjoy!

First off, I made a mix CD (of course) for this trip and we listened to it quite often while we were there. So to kind of 'take you there' in your mind, I will show you the track list of the mix.

1. Everybody's Talkin' -Harry Nillson
2. Golden - My Morning Jacket
3. She Just Wants to Be - R.E.M.
4. Up shit creek again - Tom Waits
5. I Guess Things Happen that Way - Johnny Cash
6. Girl - Beck
7. Pillar of Davidson - Live
8. Us and Them - Pink Floyd
9. Black Swan - Thom Yorke
10. City of Delusion - Muse
11. Gong - Sigur Ros
12. Alice Childress - Ben Folds
13. Wasted - Martin Sexton
14. To Be Alone With You - Sufjan Stevens
15. Within You - Ray Lamontagne

We arrived Thursday afternoon, unloaded the car into our 2nd floor grand suite which includes: King Size Bed, full kitchen, whirlpool, TV/DVD, HUGE walk-in shower with 3 heads, dining room table and living room area.

The first thing we wanted to do after getting unpacked was to take a long walk along the water and soak in the scenery:





We took our time, walking through backroads with paths laden with leaves and small doogies with their owners (that sounds like the dogs were dead, but they weren't). The smells of Wisconsin were filling our noses in the perfect way. And so the vacation was underway.


Well, after about an hour of walking around, we decided (of course) that we needed to get a great cup of coffee and play some chess. So we walked down the road to a great local shop called "Leroy's Water Street Cafe"

While we were playing chess, a group of folks came in and I overheard one of them telling the barista that he was from Pennsylvania. Well, being from PA, my ears perked up a little. When they were walking by our table I thought of asking where in PA they were from, but then for some reason I changed my mind and didn't say anything. As they walked by, one of the guys asked Mandy who was winning the chess match. Well, with the conversation already started I went ahead and asked the man where in PA he was from. "Clarion," he said. This is only 30 minutes from my hometown, Grove City, so we chatted for a bit about that area and what not. I thought it was a cool enough connection, my mind is starting to go back to the chess game. Then two of them, a husband and wife, say that they're not from Clarion, they're from Michigan and are living in Wheaton, IL. I tell them "I work in Wheaton!" It turns out that not only have they been to my Caribou several times, they are close friends with one of my employees, Christina. This is a pretty wild connection from the seemingly unrelated (non PA) couple that was on the sidelines of the conversation until now.

So through chatting with them, we discovered a great place to go and watch the sunset that evening:

They also told us of a great restaurant called Mr. Helsinki's, which was in the upstairs portion of a store in one of the villages there. Delcious food! Here is Mandy enjoying her fondue and tomato/cheese crepe we had for dinner:

After that, Mandy soaked in the whirlpool tub and I watched the Tigers beat the Yankees. A great end to our first evening there.

The next morning, we went to breakfast at a Swedish restaurant called "Al Johnson's." This place is famous for its roof being covered in grass and for having goats graze on it all day. It's quite amusing:

Then, upon the suggestion of a barista at Leroy's, we immediately hauled out to the Peninsula State Park, which is about 5 minutes from our hotel. When we arrived we rented bikes (wish we had our own!) to ride through the park. It was completely awesome. Not only were the smells of the forest wonderful, but the scenery was breath taking. The pictures don't do it justice, but here's what we captured just during the ride:

Then at the pinnacle of this 12 mile ride we took, we came upon Eagle's Tower (and when I say "came upon" I mean more that we "huffed and puffed up massive hills and sweated our tushes off upon it")

From the top of this tower, we were able to see a LONG ways off. It was amazing. Incidentally, the tower was wavering a little the whole time we were on it with 50 million kids who wanted to get to the top first. That, compiled with my natural distaste (that means I pee myself) for heights, means that Eagle Tower had it's pro's and it's con's.

Here's what the top of the tower held for our eyes:

We ate lunch at the top of the mountain, then rode down the rest of the way. After that, we (of course) went and checked out a different coffee shop nearby called "Drink Coffee"
This shop was nice, it had a computer with free internet access for customers with which I sent my 2 emails while I was away. Mandy and I tried out a total of 4 coffee shops, Leroy's being our favorite by far. One day we were exploring different villages looking for their coffee shops (of course) when I decided to ask the owner of an ice cream shop where a great coffee shop in that town might be. This merchant told me that she sold coffee there. I said "No, I'm looking for a sit down, coffee shop type atmosphere where we can read and stuff." She pointed to her one table in the corner next to a big gumball machine. "You're lookin' at it." Mandy said later that I didn't do a very good job at hiding my disgust.

That night we went to a fantastic restaurant on the water called "The Shoreline." It opens at 5 PM and when we got there at 4:45 there was already a line 20 people deep, shivering and waiting to get inside. Here's why... (our view while we ate)


Back at the hotel, we watched 3 movies during the trip (Thank you for Smoking, Tristram Shandy, and Psycho) all of which were good. We swam in the pool downstairs (which we had all to ourselves) and soaked in the hot tub. We watched the Yankees, Padres, Twins and Dodgers get eliminated from the playoffs (I especially enjoyed watching the Yankees go down).

The morning we left, we went to have brunch at the "White Gull" inn. Mandy had Blueberry pancakes and I had Cherry Stuffed French Toast (unbelievable). As we were leaving, I overheard (I eavesdrop) these 2 little boys talking to each other. The first boy said "I bet you I'm gonna be in the Book of World Records." "Why?" asked the 2nd child. "Well, in a couple of years I will... (he puts his fingers up representing a headline) for being The First Man To Not Have Chicken Pox.... EVER."

Mandy and I believe that this has been our best trip we've ever taken, from start to finish. On the drive home she discovered her dream candle shop (in which I spent an hour pretending to be the most patient husband known to man). If any of you feel that this trip is something you'd ever like to do, the website for the lodge we stayed in is: www.birchwoodlodge.com and now you have the names of some pretty awesome places to go while you're there. If you're not interested, well hopefully this was entertaining enough for you.

I needed this trip. Here's a before and after picture so you get the idea how badly I needed a short vacation:

Dark Side of the Rainbow

Last night we combined 2 forms of media into one experience by watching the Wizard of Oz on Mute while listening to the Dark Side of the Moon turned up loud. I personally have done this many times before, but half of the people there had never done it, and one had no idea why we were.

Here's why we did it:

There is a widespread rumor that when Pink Floyd made Dark Side (1974) they wrote it as an alternate soundtrack to the Wizard of Oz (1939). Some Pink Floyd members refuse to comment on the rumor, and some have denied its validity. Either way, there is mystery surrounding it, and we wanted to see it for ourselves.

How we did it:

At the very beginning of the film, the MGM lion comes on and roars three times before the start of the film. right after the 3rd roar, you press play on the album. then mute the TV. So it begins. But the album is only 42 minutes long, while the film is an hour and 40 minutes. So you play the album on a loop and watch it 2.5 times through, all the way to the end of the film.

What we discovered:

We discovered several connections between the album and the film sporadically throughout the film. The main meat of the connections is found the first time through the record. I'm not going to go into detail as to the connections themselves; you'll have to come up with your own. We didn't have any conclusive evidence to support the rumor. At the same time, we found enough to make denying it difficult.

We also discovered that the album changes the mood of the movie dramatically. Compared to what we typically took from the movie, the new soundtrack gave us new impressions. Likewise, the album takes on new life when heard in conjunction with the film. But if our minds are in a duel as to how we're to feel while we're experiencing these 2 medias at once, the audio tends to beat the visual. Meaning that we tend to interpret what our eyes see by understanding what our ears are hearing rather than the other way around. Very fascinating. Especially since we are familiar with the film enough to KNOW what is going on and our minds are still pulled into interpreting it differently because of the change in sountrack.

Who all has tried doing this?

If so, what did you discover?

Jillmarie, thank you for bringing the coffee from Greenleaf, always a big hit!

Thus Far...

These are the films that we have tackled so far. What has been the most interesting? What has been the most impactful? Which ones did you dislike? Has M.O.M. helped you in any way up to this point?

The Sexy Leading Lady